Breastfeeding in a world full of haters.

Okay, so what the h*** is up with all the do’s and dont’s about breastfeeding? I feel like everyday I see someone in social media criticizing women about sharing their breastfeeding moments and/or beliefs . Well here is what I don’t understand… When did breastfeeding become something out of the normal?

It’s not like women havent been breastfeeding for oh lets see…  FOREVER.

And now all over the place people are talking about how women who breastfeed need to keep it a private moment between baby and mom. I understand where it’s not okay to just whip out your whole boob in the middle of a restaurant and not expect people to feel a tad bit uncomfortable. But I don’t really seem how sharing a picture of your baby feeding is so wrong. I mean honestly the baby is covering most of your boob. Kim Kardashian shows more boob in every instagram picture.

So if breastfeeding is what is best for most babies and what every doctor tries to push on new mothers, then why does society make it so hard for women to breastfeed in public, or at work?

It wasn’t untill I was pregnant with Leo that any of these opinions (good or bad) about breastfeeding really made any sense to me. I always figured I would breastfeed, it just seemed like the right thing to do. The natural thing to do. But beside that I never really put that much thought into it. I knew that there were momma’s out there that either chose not too or simply were not able to breastfeed. And that was always okay with me. Because it was their business and their choice.

Now I am a new mother and I am breastfeeding and I love it. I now understand why women would want to post a picture on instagram or share with the world a small insight about how amazing that bond is with their new baby. Because it is, breastfeeding is such an amazing thing and there are times that I want to share with the world how much love I feel for my little one when I look down at him feeding.  As a society, we all need to realize how horrible we can be to each other. If women can go out to the clubs half-naked, wear nothing but panties and pasties to a music festival and not get backlash because of it, then women should be able to breastfeed in public and post on social media without all the haters. Life is beautiful, all aspects of life and people shouldn’t judge each other when their doing such an amazing thing. Stop the hate.

One more thing, for all you breastfeeding mama’s, don’t judge those mama’s who don’t. You don’t know their story, just like they don’t know yours!

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Motherhood

So last time I wrote about my experience’s through the first few weeks of being a mom.  Leo just turned 2 months a few days ago. Man it is going by so fast! In just these few months, I have learned so many different things about myself and being a mother.  Pretty much everything that I thought motherhood would be, its been the opposite. Not that I don’t love every minute of it but I don’t think I ever realized how tough this job could be!  Between breastfeeding, sleep deprivation and recovering from the actual birth I have hardly had anytime to actually reflect on what I have learned or how I am feeling. I have been pretty lucky, Leo has been for the most part a happy and calm baby. Besides from the occasional gassy tummy, he is mainly smiling and cooing all day!

I have been nothing but happy being Leo’ s mommy. Motherhood is an amazing thing and I honestly have felt so much joy being able to experience my little man grow and develop right before my eyes. But there are times when I feel a little overwhelmed, guilty and extremely nervous.

What I think I have learned the most from these few months of motherhood is that there are going to be some really hard and honestly, sucky days! There have been days and nights that all Leo wants to do is be held, cry or both. Sometimes I cant figure out whats wrong and need to take a few seconds to calm down. Yesterday we entered Leo’s 8 week growth spurt. Last night Leo decided that all he wanted to do was cry. I tried to feed him for hours and he simply wasnt hungry. I tried to rock him to sleep and he just wasnt having it. After about 30 minutes of straight SCREAMING baby crying, I needed to have Nick step in and takeover. And then I started crying because I couldn’t figure out what my baby wanted. And it made me feel like a horrible mother. I felt guilty that I could get so overwhelmed which then made me nervous because I couldn’t help think that something could be wrong with my baby, even though I knew that it was simply because his little body was growing so fast that he was just exhausted! I had all of these feelings rush over me at once and just wasn’t sure how to deal. Nick finally got Leo to fall asleep in his arms. I was so relieved that baby was finally asleep. However I still had this cloud of guilt hanging over me. I hate that it was Nick who got him to calm down and not me. I hate that I couldn’t hold it together through his screaming fit. Was I a bad mom?

Finally after baby was passed out, Nick and I finally sat down in bed and each took a deep breath. Nick could tell that I was still a little upset about my little freak out. He told me that everything was okay, and not to worry because we were a team. He made my heart melt. And then I remembered a piece of advice I received from another mother, “It shall pass”. And it did. Leo was soundly sleeping, looking as sweet as could be like this whole fit never happened. I knew I wasn’t a bad mother  and I knew that there would be many more moments like this. Being a Mother means that there are  going to be some really bad days and also some really GOOD days. Hours of crying are worth every smile and laugh I get from baby Leo.

My First weeks being Leo’s MOM

As my post before this said, I became a mother for the first time a few months ago. Let me tell you how amazing these first few months have been. Baby Leo is such a joy and nothing is more rewarding than getting to watch him grow each day.

So let tell you what I have learned, or should I say what Leo has taught me..

Weeks 1-2: Having a newborn is a very busy and sensitive time. During my pregnancy I researched a million blogs, read books and had so many ideas of what I would do and not do as a new mother. I researched having a natural birth and decided that, that was what I wanted to do. I felt strongly against co-sleeping and thought that I would have my new baby on a strong sleeping schedule by 8 weeks. Well, none of that happened. (First let me say that I have nothing against anyone who has any ideas unlike mine. This blog is only about what I have learned about being a new mother through my eyes). I can honestly say that I went into this very over confidant.

I went into labor 4 days before my due date at around 2am.  I had been having Braxton hicks contractions for couple of weeks and I wasn’t sure if these were the real thing or not. Soon enough the REAL contractions began. Everything I read about pain management went out the window. My idea of a natural birth lasted pretty much untill I got to the hospital. The pain was unreal. I read in a blog that when preparing for birth, go into it open-minded and do whatever works best for you and the baby. I was so focused on the pain that it was hard to relax and after being up all night with the contractions I was exhausted. So at 4am I decided to go for the epidural. I pretty much slept for the next 12 hours of labor, which was the most I had slept at one time in the last month! During my labor, the baby’s heart beat kept going up and down and when it came to the time to push I ended up having to go in for a C-Section. needless to say, the C-Section was not planned at all. I went into all of this with a specific birth plan, ideas of how to deal with the pain and all kinds of tricks to help me through the birth. None of that was used or even looked at once I was in the hospital. But at the end of everything, Baby and I were healthy and happy!

The next few days at the hospital went by fast. It was pretty much eat, sleep poop for baby. For me, I started my adventure of breastfeeding and sleep deprivation. I had to force myself to sleep sometimes because I couldn’t get enough of holding my precious baby. Thankfully breastfeeding came pretty easy to me and Leo. I had my milk in a few days after leaving the hospital and baby was an eating machine right from the start.

The first weeks at home were great! However it was nothing like I planned. I had all these ideas about what it would be like with baby. I thought that I would be able to get a the baby on somewhat of a sleeping schedule from the start, I thought that I would be up out of bed easily, well I thought wrong. I was very thankful for the help of my friends and family. Healing from a C-Section is no joke!

What I have learned most is that every mother and baby is different. There is no right or wrong when it comes to parenting as long as you and the baby are happy and healthy. My best advice is to tune out all the haters and do what’s best for you and your little one. It sounds a lot easier than it is. There are still times that I feel like I am doing things wrong just because for someone else their experience was different. Just enjoy your baby!

Weeks 3-6 in my next post!

Welcome baby Leo 

On 8-31-2015 at 4:30 pm, we got to welcome our beautiful baby boy into the world. This being my first child I was shocked at how much love I have for this little guy already. He’s perfect! Labor was a tad complicated and not at all what I planned for (that’s for my next post). For now baby and I are both healthy and enjoying every moment of this amazing gift! 

Hello bloggers!

Hello bloggers! Let me introduce myself, I’m Kaila. I’m 9 months pregnant and I wanted to start this blog to share all the amazing mommy moments during my pregnancy  and all the cool stuff that’s about to happen! 

Being pregnant these last nine months have not been as glamourous and exciting as I thought. To be honest, being pregnant is HARD. It’s gross, tiring, full of surprises and stretch marks. But when you think about what’s growing inside of you, you can’t help but love the monster that makes you throw up for three months straight. It’s been an incredible journey and as I’m counting down the days till little Leo makes his appearance in this world, I know I already love him more then anything else I’ve ever loved before. 

I want to start by giving some simple advice for your new pregnancy that I have learned along the way so far: 

1. SLEEP. As a working mama up until a day ago, I was exhausted throughout the whole 9 months. You have a baby growing inside of you and it takes your body a lot of work to keep him safe. If you weren’t a nap taker before become one. Take these next months to indulge in as much sleep as possible while you can still sleep. And invest in a pregnancy pillow. I did not and will for sure buy one for my next pregnancy. 

2. Don’t stress. Having a baby is a scary thing. You have a lot to do before this baby comes but I promise you will get it all done. Newborn babies are pretty simple creatures so if you don’t have all the things that you think you need. It’s okay. You will learn as you go. 

3. You will throw up or feel nauseous sometime during this pregnancy. This was my biggest issue. I hate feeling sick to my stomach and for a good two months if I wasn’t throwing up, I was sick to my tummy. I tried every home remedy I could find on the web and nothing worked. I wanted to avoid  getting a prescription from my doctor for anti nausea medication because I hate taking medicine (that is an option so if you don’t mind taking it, then do it!). My advice is remember it won’t last the whole time and eat whatever you can manage. I had cravings for Taco Bell (I didn’t usually eat fast food) but sometimes that was the only thing I could keep down. Don’t worry about what you eat at first. You can always eat like you want after this phase. Just make your tummy happy. And at exactly 15 weeks, my sickness turned off like a light switch! So good luck ladies 🙂 

4. Stay away from the internet. There are a lot of moms out there and a lot of different opinions. I tried joining this mom app, where you can post questions, etc. the moms eventually got very mean and caddy and I had to delete it! I read the baby books that I wanted too, and would read blogs from parents that were open to any kind of parenting. I had ideas of how I wanted to raise baby Leo long before I got pregnant and that’s the information that I read and learned about. 

5. The 35th week and after sucks. My second and early third trimester were as good as they could have been. I had a hard time sleeping but nothing that compares to the very end. Also I had a summer pregnancy in AZ! There weren’t enough fans or air conditioner to keep me cooled off. My advice is keep your feet up, drink a ton of water (even though you will have to pee all that water out) and just wait for baby. It’s almost over! 

Hope some of this advice helps!